The Beginning to My Marriage

I had just recently got out of a really bad relationship. There was drinking and drug use on his part, not mine. I was the designated babysitter for him. It had been two weeks since I last saw him and I was estatic! My friend texted me when I was out and asked me to come to a bar, she had someone she wanted me to meet. I really wasn't into meeting somebody and it never crossed my mind that she was hinting at a one night stand. I have never, to this day, have had a one night stand. Its just not me. Anyway, me and two of my friends who were married go to this bar. The friend who called me (brandi) was there with her boyfriend(sean) and his friend(david). David is who she wanted me to meet. I checked him out and had my reservations about him. He was cute, army haircut, tall, had muscle but wasnt' bulky, but he was wearing a spandex spiderman shirt. I mean really? He was 20 years old for crying out loud! But, I can't say much because I was wearing a superman t-shirt! lol! But my married friends who came with me pulled me to the side and told me they heard a very interesting thing....my "friend" brandi was trying to hook me up with david for a one night stand. Apparently it had been a while since he had gotten laid......nice.....So after hearing this, my guard goes up and I start to flirt shamelessly. I figured if they had the balls to basically throw me at this guy, I would go all out and then turn him down and go home. Well, we all decided to go back to the barracks and drink since none of could at the bar. Me and Brandi met more of Seans friends and started to drink. There was another guy there named Brian. Now Brian is very easy to look at. Dark hair, dark eyes, tall, nice muscle. The problem was, he knew it. He is a very smooth talker and knows how to sweet talk and charm! Next thing I know, Brian and David were in "competition" and had their shirts off. I was in heaven! lol! And I actually made out with both of them which was a first for me. As the night wore on, I was more interested in David because I knew Brian was a collector. But, David left. (found out later it was cause he was bored) And then Brian left. David told me I could go with him if I wanted. I wasn't planning on it, but Sean told me no, I wasn't going. So of course I wanted to do the opposite. I mean who was he to tell me no. I just met him! I ended up not leaving and me and Brandi ended up passing out on the bed. Next thing I know Brandi is saying how horny she is...I told her sorry Icouldn't help her....so Sean gets the bright idea of climbing on top of her and they start to go at it...mind you I am still in the bed. I feel this hand creeping between my thighs. OMG! Really? I start to freak out because of some really bad memories this was provoking. I kept pushing his hand away and he kept bringing it back. I guess I started yelling because there was a banging on the door and shouting for Sean to open the door. As soon as Sean got up, I got up. It was Brian. He demanded to know what was going on. He was looking at me. I was just standing there shaking like a leaf with tears streaming down my face. Brian told me to come out of the room, I was more than happy to oblige. Sean tried to intervene, but failed.  Me and Brian stayed up and talked all night. It was definetly something different from what I am use to, he was different from my original conclusion. He asked me if I would like to go on a date with him and I told him yes and to just call me. I realized later that he didn't even get my number! A few days go by and I learned that Brandi had talked to him, but he never mentioned getting my number or me for that matter. So, I figured he was just playing, I let it go. David on the other hand, was very interested! Brandi, Sean, David, and I were elected to watch her parents for them while they went on vacation! I have no idea what they were thinking! lol! But we were very well behaved, we all had to much respect for her parents to be bad. That was the first time me and David did anything sexual other than making out. We were both on the couch together and cuddlying. Eventually his hands start to wander. It felt so good! We started to get more into, but I had to pull the brakes because Mother Nature was visiting me that week! But, I began stroking him and it was maybe a minute of stroking when I hear "Oh Fuck" in my ear. Yea, that quick, and no i am not that good! He was really embarassed, but it had been awhile for him also. I wasn't mad. I thought it was kinda cute.  Well, since everything was going so well, something bad had to happen. I had gone to get tested for STD's after being with drug and alcohol dude just to be safe. When I had done that, the doctor told me that I had herpes. They are able to diagnose this just by looking. She was also going to do blood tests. Awesome......well, I really liked David and I really wanted something to happen with us. But, I had to tell him. So, I asked him if we could go on a walk so I could talk to him. He agreed to go. I told him the story about me and ex and that I had to get tested and that I might have herpes, I was suppose to get the results in a couple of weeks. He took it very well. He actually laughed and said thats it? I was like yea what else would it be. This is kinda serious! He told me that he thought it was something worse. He asked if this was why I refused to sleep with him. I told him that was part of the reason, but also because I don't sleep with someone right off the bat. I like to know that I can trust the person first. He actually went with me to get the test results. It was negative on everything! I was so relieved! Me and David continued to date, nothing to serious. I knew that I was the only one he was dating and vice versa. He had told me that he didn't want anything serious and I was good with that. About  a month into dating, we still hadn't slept together. But, it wasn't a priority with us. At least not with me. We were having fun just being together. One day, we were hanging out at Brandi's and he pulled me into his arms and whispered,"I love you". It was so quiet that I wasn't sure what he had said. I just pretended I didn't hear him. I told Brandi what I thought he had said. She was excited! I wasn't sure about it though. Later that night, we decided to crash at Brandi's because we had been drinking, he told me again, more confidently, that he loved me. I just looke at him; I didn't know what to say! I wasn't clear on my feelings and didn't want to tell him anything until I was sure. I asked him if he was sure, and I thought he didn't want anything serious, and he understands that telling me that takes us to a different level of relationship. he said yes, he knew and he wasn't sure what happened. He reassured me that I didn't have to say or do anything, he just wanted me to know how he felt.  I told him I loved him a few weeks later. He told me he didn't want saying it just because I felt I should. I told him that i wasn't, I really meant it. I couldn't imagine being with anybody else and didn't want to imagine it. We slept together for the first time on his 20th birthday.  We went through a lot of ups and downs and fights and breakup and getting back togethers. We married Septmeber 10,2005.